Has your loved one's substance use or mental health caused problems at work, school, or with finances?

Have you found yourself lying or covering for your loved one to family, friends, or employers?

Has your loved one tried to cut back, quit, or get help — and been unable to follow through?

Are you walking on eggshells around your loved one to avoid setting them off?

Has your loved one had legal trouble, accidents, or close calls related to their use or mental state?

Has the rest of the family — partners, children, siblings — suffered as a result of focusing on this one person?

Have you given your loved one money, shelter, or other support that you suspect enabled continued use?

Has your loved one expressed hopelessness, talked about suicide, or had any near-overdose events?

Do you find yourself thinking about your loved one's situation almost constantly?

Have previous attempts to talk to your loved one ended in denial, anger, or false promises?