A Guide to Codependency and Alcoholism


Alcoholism, or alcohol use disorder, is a condition that can present itself in a variety of ways and has a wide range of physical and psychological symptoms. The intersection of codependency and alcoholism is one of the disorder’s many complex aspects.

Having an unhealthy reliance on the other person in a relationship is referred to as “codependency.” In particular, this can happen quite often with a person who is drinking too much. Codependency can develop in a friendship, a romantic partnership, or a parent-child relationship. Seeking treatment for codependency and alcoholism can transform the lives of the addicted person and those closest to them.

Codependency With an Alcoholic: What Does It Mean?

For various people, cohabiting with an alcoholic can mean many different things. People who have codependent tendencies, however, tend to place a lower priority on their own needs while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others. This could imply one of the following in an unhealthful partnership with an alcoholic:

• You’re more concerned with someone else’s happiness than your own.
• You’re concerned that something you do could cost someone close to you their love or respect.
• You no longer socialize as much as you used to with your friends and family.
• You experience anxiety or depression when you consider your relationship.
• You strongly suspect that someone in your life is exerting pressure or control over you.

It can feel overwhelming and impossible to maneuver in these circumstances, particularly when dealing with a loved one who is an alcoholic. However, since these are learned behaviors, they can be “unlearned,” and with the right skills and advice, you can completely change your life.

Is Codependency Potentially Dangerous?

Even though we’ve provided examples of signs and behaviors, there is still a fundamental concern: how can codependency be harmful? Codependency with an alcoholic can be harmful because it allows alcoholism to continue without repercussions. These are the consequences required to recognize the need and initiate the change process.

Without help, untreated alcoholism is a chronic and progressive illness. It will inevitably evolve into end-stage alcoholism and possibly end with the death of the alcoholic and an emotional breakdown for the family.

Family members who do nothing allow the alcoholic to continue on dangerous paths with few opportunities to stop. At some point, there will always be an intervention. A family may want to think about whether to stage a loving family intervention or allow them to have an alcohol intervention as a result of the consequences.

Addictions and other personality disorders can become exponentially worse when codependency disorder is present in a relationship, as can other unhealthy behaviors. Making excuses for bad behavior is a big part of codependency, and acting impulsively and maladaptively starts to become the norm.

A partner who suffers from addiction may frequently fall into the same trap, leading to mutual addiction and enabling. A controlling or manipulative partner, whether or not they use alcohol, can make any relationship stressful and leave little to no room for rest.

Alcohol is a widely used and accepted substance, so excessive use is frequently overlooked until the behaviors and lifestyles become out of control and begin to negatively affect others. If you believe yourself to be in a codependent relationship with an alcoholic, it may be time to seek out help. We at Family Interventions are here to assist you if you ever need such help. Please contact us if you need our assistance.